Mistakes to avoid in a new romance

You have finally mustered the courage to let your crush or your bestie know that you have developed feelings for him! All those jittery feelings, butterflies in your stomach when you see him, stealthily catching glimpses of each other at college or work (if you share the same workplace or college!) or putting in that extra effort to get ready before you meet him, have almost reached fruition and if you are lucky, you may even start off a romance you always wished for! While its all too exciting to get into a relationship with your crush, there are some mistakes you can avoid committing at the onset of your new romance:

Not learning from past relationships
Every relationship teaches you values and lessons. Understand that every failed relationship has failed for a reason. Try to figure out what was your contribution in the failing relationship and if there are ways you can change yourself, then please do. This will not only make you a better person but also refrain you from committing the same mistakes again. New relationship, better you!

Being too clingy
We know you’ve been waiting to embark on this new journey, and it has gotten you all excited about the prospects of how the future is going to look like but clinging on to him can turn him off big time. He may be a sweetheart and must be taking it with a pinch of salt but that is not going to be the case all the time! Give each other the space that is required and allow the relationship to take its own path and curve to grow organically.

Being too available
Making coffee plans, setting up after-work dates or just plain replying to texts at 3 am! It may seem difficult at the beginning, but it would be in the best of your interests to not be too available to your partner at any given time. It may gradually make your partner take you for granted. Hold up, live your life, and spend equal time with your friends as much as you would with your partner. Don’t change your priorities because you have started a new romance. Be the same! Trying to change your significant other
When you decide to date someone, you accept the person for the way they are. Even if it means they like chhole over chicken or yoga over running! Don’t try to change the person if you don’t like some of his traits or habits, instead accept him for the way he is and work things around if you have any concerns bothering you. That’s the beauty of a relationship – two different people exploring the world with two different perspectives together!

Don’t make it just about yourself
It takes two people to make or break a relationship. It is not a good idea to constantly blabber on about yourself. Express your opinions, discuss amongst each other and allow the other person to contribute to the conversations as well. Setting up too many expectations from his end is only going to pressurise him that will eventually lead to conflicts you both could have avoided in the first place. Make it a teamwork and not a one-man-army!

If you worked yourself around these points, you are good to go. Happy dating!

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