Meeting your potential partner can make you nervous. Scenes from Shahid Kapoor and Amrita Rao-starrer Vivaah flash right in front of your eyes, don’t they? There’s no surprise if you get anxious thinking about what to expect and what not to expect. Thoughts like whether you’ll like him or not, what kind of questions he/she might have, what kind of questions you are supposed to ask and whether you will end up liking or no is a nail-biting situation from start to end. We jot down some thoughts that one usually has before meeting his/her partner and partner’s family:
Am I dressed well for the meeting?
A basic thought every person has before an important meeting or probably an interview is – am I dressed well for the occasion? First impression is the last impression, and you don’t want to leave any stone unturned before meeting your partner. Anxiety makes you more picky about the minutest details – have I polished the shoe enough? Are there any creases on my dress? Is the makeup alright? And you feel like your head will explode! It’s okay, you can chill. These thoughts are common and can be dealt with easily. Be your normal, charming self and that’s enough to light sparks at your meeting.
What questions do I ask?
Here comes the serious task at hand! You meet your partner, munch on those amazing fritters and sip on some delicious mango juice. Later comes the essential part – getting to know him/her. We know it’s impossible to gauge a person on a few questions but asking simple questions that reveal his likes, dislikes, favourite pastimes, sports he/she likes to indulge in or as simple as a favourite cheat meal can give you a fair understanding of what the person is like. Of course, questions like career aspirations, what does he/she expect from you, when does he/she plan on having a child, what does his/her family do and their expectations towards you would be safe to ask on your first meet.
One thing that you look for in your partner is compatibility and there is only one way you can do that – by spending enough time together. Sit down together and see if both of you are okay with dating each other for a while. If you are, that will give you a clearer understanding about how you vibe together, and gives an understanding if you would really want to marry the person and spend the rest of your life with. Give each other enough time and space to get comfortable and go with the flow.
Whether he/she will be comfortable with your family?
In India, you don’t just marry your partner; you marry his/her family as well. This makes it even more important to see if your partner can adjust well with your family. Thus, making your partner more accustomed to your family and vice versa will be a big advancement in your relationship. It is better to lay out your expectations, if any, beforehand than keeping quiet and having problems crop later. Understand you are entering a holy union and begin that with a clear mind and intentions.
The time to make Breast Health a priority is now
Let’s talk about something that women should pay absolutely top priority attention to – the topic of breast cancer! After all, October is the Breast Cancer Awareness Month. There’s no better time than now to celebrate all those women warriors who have beat breast cancer. These women are our role models! They are the ones who have survived and come out victorious at the end of it. If you are wondering how they managed to do it, here is the insight: a regular self-examination of breasts. After all, early detection does save lives.
On the Go
It’s no secret that women today are forces to reckon with. They’re independent, driven, and wholly capable. If that’s not all, most are seen multitasking and balancing a lucrative career while managing their homes and raising a family. Naturally, that means they seldom find and dedicate time to themselves. In fact, busy schedules spell neglect and hence taking even 10 minutes out of the daily schedule seems like quite a task.
But you should know that breast cancer is easily treatable if spotted early, and there are many symptoms that you can keep an eye out for. Symptoms of breast cancer include change in breast shape, skin colour, a persistent rash or irritation around your breasts, etc. However, the one most commonly talked about, and prominent symptom, is the formation of the lump in your breasts. These lumps can be detected through regular self-examination. So, wouldn’t it be easier if there was a tool that could not only encourage and motivate women to perform breast self-examination but also guide them in doing so? Earlier this year, SBI Life teamed up with Women’s Cancer Initiative – Tata Memorial Hospital, to launch Thanks A Dot, a free of cost and easy to use self-training module to help the women of India inculcate the habit of self-examination. An empowering move indeed!
A regular self-testing habit is a woman’s most powerful tool. And now, with theThanks A Dot kit, this practice has been made easy and efficient. All you need is to take 10 minutes out of your daily schedule to examine your breasts. To make matters simpler, the ‘Thanks A Dot’ kit comes with a step-by-step guide on how you can self examine your breasts. The kit consists of 3D silicon forms that take their shape & size from real mammograms, to train your fingers on real lump detection at early stages of potential breast cancer. Moreover, the kit is built around active learning by tactile puzzle-solving to help make you comfortable and motivate you to make this a regular activity, and finally take that well deserved ‘me time’.
All you need to do is to take 10 minutes out of your morning schedule or your bedtime schedule for the examination. Or you could take time out, perhaps on a weekend, when you may be relatively free. You could also set a monthly reminder on your mobile to “It’s time for a breast examination with Dr. You.” Teaming up with your bestie could be another way of remembering to perform a self-examination.Words of Wisdom
“Do not fight cancer, conquer it!” This is the battle cry of Neerja Malik, a 64-year-old two-time breast cancer survivor, founder of Apollo Cancer Support Group, Chennai, and Pinkathon ambassador, who sat with us to tell us about her experience. She was first diagnosed in 1998. “Back then, there wasn’t much importance given to self-examination. But now, after so many years of experience in dealing with cancer, and counselling so many patients, I have learned one thing: your body is your temple, and isn’t the temple cleaned every day? Similarly, regular self-examination will help you get familiar with the contours of your body and will help you in detecting if there is any abnormality.” She adds, “All women are shakti, so don’t put yourself on the backburner. When it comes to us, we say things like, ‘It will go away,’ or ‘I don’t have the time.’ Women should learn to prioritize themselves and give themselves the importance that they deserve. If we look after ourselves, the world around us is taken care of.”The Beginning
There’s no denying that breast cancer is on the rise today, particularly for young women. This is why women must be their own soldiers, their own protectors, their own knights in shining armor. All of this starts with making regular check-ups or self-examination a habit. 10 minutes of your time a month can help you stay self-prepared to detect that lump early, paving the way to a healthier and happier life. So, visit SBI Life and order your free Thanks a Dot kit today. Let’s pledge to take care of ourselves and make a collective effort to win this battle against breast cancer. Why fear the lump when you can thank a dot!